the stupidly-named place where i dump all the stuff that i don't know what else to do with so i can get it the heck out of my brain. also: INSTAGRAMS!

Permalink on day 58, i am happy for surprisingly well-behaved traveling companions. (not that you can tell from this photo.) #100happydays
Permalink on day 57, i am happy to be curating an awesome playlist for leg one of our upcoming road trip. #100happydays

"My response to the “I am not a feminist” internet phenomenon….

First of all, it’s clear you don’t know what feminism is. But I’m not going to explain it to you. You can google it. To quote an old friend, “I’m not the feminist babysitter.”

But here is what I think you should know.

You’re insulting every woman who was forcibly restrained in a jail cell with a feeding tube down her throat for your right to vote, less than 100 years ago.

You’re degrading every woman who has accessed a rape crisis center, which wouldn’t exist without the feminist movement.

You’re undermining every woman who fought to make marital rape a crime (it was legal until 1993).

You’re spitting on the legacy of every woman who fought for women to be allowed to own property (1848). For the abolition of slavery and the rise of the labor union. For the right to divorce. For women to be allowed to have access to birth control (Comstock laws). For middle and upper class women to be allowed to work outside the home (poor women have always worked outside the home). To make domestic violence a crime in the US (It is very much legal in many parts of the world). To make workplace sexual harassment a crime.

In short, you know not what you speak of. You reap the rewards of these women’s sacrifices every day of your life. When you grin with your cutsey sign about how you’re not a feminist, you ignorantly spit on the sacred struggle of the past 200 years. You bite the hand that has fed you freedom, safety, and a voice.

In short, kiss my ass, you ignorant little jerks.”

Permalink dear @jaimeburger and @pacrossfitnewbie: this never happened, okay? (neither did the next two. we’re celebrating!)
Permalink on day 56, i am happy for making that 60+ minute drive to practice every day for the last six weeks, because now she is part of a TEAM, and like families, teams are forever. (2014 #PJSL 2nd place team trophy) #100happydays
Permalink on day 55, i am happy for pre-champs carbo-loading. (pizza and breadsticks, y’all.) #100happydays
Permalink on day 54, i am happy for tangible rewards for a job well done and a season well swum. #100happydays
Permalink on day 53, i am happy for sit-at-home-and-watch-movies-on-cable night. (tonight’s feature: “gravity.”) #100happydays


just in case there are any questions about my personal definition of feminism: do whatever the hell you want, because you want to, but demand equal treatment, respect, and pay for what you’re doing.

working outside the home because you want to? feminism.

being a stay-at-home parent because you want to? feminism.

having to accept less money because you’re a woman, or having to put up with bullshit from people who do not value the importance of raising children, or being stuck in the same job for your entire career with no hope of advancement because you lack a penis? patriarchal bullshit.

i don’t know where this idea that all feminists, to a one, hate men comes from. i know i don’t hate men, and i consider myself a capital-F feminist. most of my capital-F feminist friends, colleagues, and cohorts feel likewise. men, in and of themselves, are fine. they’re fun. they’re useful. we need them to propagate the species.

but they are NOT, in fact, better than women. they’re not worse, either. they’re just different. not in a good way or a bad way, but a different way. the only inherent difference between men and women is gender. i really believe that. and i don’t believe that difference is sufficient to validate millennia of oppression. we are all, save our sexual organs, the same.

i don’t understand the anti-feminist movement. i really think it’s based on a fundamental misunderstanding of what feminism actually is. i don’t want anyone to hand me anything i don’t deserve. i just want people to recognize that my breasts and vagina do not somehow magically invalidate my accomplishments, my intelligence, or my choices.

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let’s see how mad people get because of this

So much yes on this!

apparently i have been doing feminism wrong for 40 years, because i think body hair is gross.